Can we lose love?

"Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost" 

                                                                                                                       Kahlil Gibran

Came across these lines recently and was lost in the significance and magnitude of the meaning. Read and re-read it, amazed at how someone could put into words, a thought of such enormity, in such simple language. The fact, that probably everyone will relate to it, made it more intriguing. The lines refused to leave me. The more I thought about it, the more it engulfed me.

Say what you mean. I do believe in communication playing a major role in relationships.Years ago, my roommate had lamented, that her parents shied away from showing their love in any way, after a certain age.There are many who believe in the same school of thought, that it is enough to just love, it isn't necessary to show it. Given the uncertainty of life, isn't it better to make a show of your emotions?

Show your love, it will only make someone more secure.Vent out your anger, it won't turn into poison, that eats away your bonds. Share your insecurities, your fear and your jealousies too. You might be surprised at the futility of these emotions when the person realizes you feel this way. On the other hand if it doesn't make a difference to them, well, you still realize the futility of it all.

Often we do the opposite.Deliberately say things we don't mean. Hurt,anger,ego...the reasons could be many but, the one constant,almost always, is the resulting hurt. It isn't always possible to say what we mean. We are human after all, at times we are a victim of our own weaknesses. If that makes even a little bit of love being lost... Is it really possible to lose love? 

There has been uncountable definitions, explanations, discussions on what love is. No one single definition will hold true for everyone. Everyone perceives it differently and believes it is the universal way to look at it. The way I look at it, there is no way of love ever being lost. For me, "love at first sight" is highly overrated. For eyes can only see the physical,which gives no idea about the person it holds inside. To know someone better than the person himself/herself; to put that person before your ego; to be able to communicate without words; to not let any words or actions or the lack of it scar but,  strengthen the anchor; to be the reason for someone's inner peace; isn't that love?

For me, it is. Once the shackles and barriers have been broken between two people to build a very strong bond that can't waver at the mere utterance or absence of words; that grounds and anchors them to life, it can't be lost. The pain of being let down might build a wall in between, or create a gorge that is impossible to cross. Will that erase the warmth, the familiarity, the tug the heart feels...ever? It only needs a bit of courage, to reach out and bring it back to life. A bond that strong, that we call love, can't break, can't be lost.  If it does, it wasn't love.